Comments on: Q & A: How do I handle a hubby who’s pushing me too hard? http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/ Pictures and stories from a woman who rides motorcycles! Tue, 7 Oct 2008 08:55:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Janet (Biker Chick) http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/#comment-304 Janet (Biker Chick) Thu, 14 Feb 2008 13:23:12 +0000 http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/#comment-304 Hi Kristin - glad you stopped by! You don't have to ride to read the blog, it's for anyone who's interested for whatever reason, so stick around! I'm so glad you are enjoying the book. I really loved that book when I first read it - it has been a favorite for a long time. Another really good one is called "Writing Down the Bones" by Natalie Goldberg. It's similar in that it's very inspirational and helpful at the same time. Thanks again for reading along here - I am really hoping for warmer weather SOON! Take care - Janet <em>Janet (Biker Chick)'s last blog post..<a href='http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2008/02/09/2008-swap-meet/' rel="nofollow">Capitol City Customs Swap Meet & Bike Show</a></em> Hi Kristin - glad you stopped by! You don’t have to ride to read the blog, it’s for anyone who’s interested for whatever reason, so stick around! I’m so glad you are enjoying the book. I really loved that book when I first read it - it has been a favorite for a long time. Another really good one is called “Writing Down the Bones” by Natalie Goldberg. It’s similar in that it’s very inspirational and helpful at the same time.

Thanks again for reading along here - I am really hoping for warmer weather SOON!

Take care -
Janet

Janet (Biker Chick)’s last blog post..Capitol City Customs Swap Meet & Bike Show

]]> By: Kristin http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/#comment-302 Kristin Thu, 14 Feb 2008 03:45:38 +0000 http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/#comment-302 Janet-- It's Kristin from Porky's. I found your blog and although motorcycles are cool, I don't ride. I thought I'd tell you hello anyway! It's neat that you do this. I have less than 50 pages left in the book you gave me. Thanks again, see you soon. Kristin : ) Janet– It’s Kristin from Porky’s. I found your blog and although motorcycles are cool, I don’t ride. I thought I’d tell you hello anyway! It’s neat that you do this. I have less than 50 pages left in the book you gave me. Thanks again, see you soon. Kristin : )

]]> By: BikerChick http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/#comment-11 BikerChick Wed, 01 Aug 2007 02:22:20 +0000 http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/#comment-11 Blanche, great ideas, thanks for adding them here! ~ Janet Blanche, great ideas, thanks for adding them here! ~ Janet

]]> By: Blanche http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/#comment-10 Blanche Tue, 31 Jul 2007 23:28:26 +0000 http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/#comment-10 I totally agree with what has been said...don't let your husband push you past your comfort zone! If your husband won't listen to you, is there a friend of his that rides, too, that you could maybe put bug in his ear and he could talk to your husband about it? Sometimes, they do relate better to someone other than their spouse. Also if you can find some women bikers through a local club or dealership, I'm sure they would be more than willilng to go on a soft, easy ride with you. That would make you feel less stressed than riding with your husband and knowing he is wanting to push you. This may sound like a stupid idea, but when I started riding, I'd get freaked out by looking at the speedometer and realizing I was going a heart-stopping 35 or 40 mph. Since I was following my husband at the time and trusted his judgement, I quite looking at the speedometer all the time. (Of course, not a good idea if you are on a solo ride!) Anyway, that way by the time I would finally look down at it, we'd been going whatever speed for a while and I wasn't freaked out about it! I totally agree with what has been said…don’t let your husband push you past your comfort zone! If your husband won’t listen to you, is there a friend of his that rides, too, that you could maybe put bug in his ear and he could talk to your husband about it? Sometimes, they do relate better to someone other than their spouse.

Also if you can find some women bikers through a local club or dealership, I’m sure they would be more than willilng to go on a soft, easy ride with you. That would make you feel less stressed than riding with your husband and knowing he is wanting to push you.

This may sound like a stupid idea, but when I started riding, I’d get freaked out by looking at the speedometer and realizing I was going a heart-stopping 35 or 40 mph. Since I was following my husband at the time and trusted his judgement, I quite looking at the speedometer all the time. (Of course, not a good idea if you are on a solo ride!) Anyway, that way by the time I would finally look down at it, we’d been going whatever speed for a while and I wasn’t freaked out about it!

]]> By: Vicki http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/#comment-6 Vicki Sat, 28 Jul 2007 00:54:53 +0000 http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/#comment-6 No I am not going to the East Village tonight. My son has been gone all week so we are spending time together tonight. I will let you know when I do go to a bike night so we can meet up. I currently have a Honda 400 Automatic but will be getting my Kawasaki Vulcan 800 Classic on Sunday. It is Red and the person that had it added lots of accessories. She is stepping up to bigger bike. I am hoping to redo my website and put pictures of it on my site. No I am not going to the East Village tonight. My son has been gone all week so we are spending time together tonight. I will let you know when I do go to a bike night so we can meet up. I currently have a Honda 400 Automatic but will be getting my Kawasaki Vulcan 800 Classic on Sunday. It is Red and the person that had it added lots of accessories. She is stepping up to bigger bike. I am hoping to redo my website and put pictures of it on my site.

]]> By: BikerChick http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/#comment-4 BikerChick Fri, 27 Jul 2007 17:47:46 +0000 http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/#comment-4 WOOHOO!! Vicki, the gal who asked this question is in Illinois but you've offered another great idea for her to consider. THANK YOU for sharing your experience and for offering another suggestion, and congrats on achieving all those milestones yourself! Are you going to East Village Bike Night tonight? What do you ride? I'd love to meet up and just say hello! Best, Janet ("Biker Chick") WOOHOO!! Vicki, the gal who asked this question is in Illinois but you’ve offered another great idea for her to consider. THANK YOU for sharing your experience and for offering another suggestion, and congrats on achieving all those milestones yourself!

Are you going to East Village Bike Night tonight? What do you ride? I’d love to meet up and just say hello!

Best,
Janet (”Biker Chick”)

]]> By: Vicki http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/#comment-3 Vicki Fri, 27 Jul 2007 13:27:47 +0000 http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/#comment-3 One more thing. If you are in the Des Moines area I would be willing to go with you. One more thing. If you are in the Des Moines area I would be willing to go with you.

]]> By: Vicki http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/#comment-2 Vicki Fri, 27 Jul 2007 13:26:13 +0000 http://www.bikerchicknews.com/2007/07/27/pushingmetoofar/#comment-2 I can totally relate with you and bikerchick has some really good ideas. It took me a while to be able to go out on the open road but here is how I did it. I have had my liscense for almost a year. I would not go over 40 MPH. Last month some of my co-workers were going to Bike Night in Indianola. I wanted to go. But to get there I was going to have to go more than 40 MPH. I decided to go for it and see what happens. Well I loved it. I have since been looking for a bigger bike so that I can do more out of city riding. Well tomorrow I am stepping up from a 400cc to a 800cc. An idea may be to get together with some friends and to take a small ride. This way you have the support and if you decide that you don't like the open road yet there will probably be someone that is willing to turn around with you and head back to the city. I can totally relate with you and bikerchick has some really good ideas. It took me a while to be able to go out on the open road but here is how I did it. I have had my liscense for almost a year. I would not go over 40 MPH. Last month some of my co-workers were going to Bike Night in Indianola. I wanted to go. But to get there I was going to have to go more than 40 MPH. I decided to go for it and see what happens. Well I loved it. I have since been looking for a bigger bike so that I can do more out of city riding. Well tomorrow I am stepping up from a 400cc to a 800cc. An idea may be to get together with some friends and to take a small ride. This way you have the support and if you decide that you don’t like the open road yet there will probably be someone that is willing to turn around with you and head back to the city.

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